Holding the Calm

Holding the Calm

The Secret to Resolving Conflict and Defusing Tension

Hesha Abrams


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Holding the Calm is a practical and immediately useful guide that meticulously lays out twenty concrete, easy-to-use tools for defusing tension, settling cases, resolving disputes, and rechanneling arguments.

How do you stop conflict? Settle disputes? Handle someone who is yelling at you, crying, or just won't speak? How do you find a solution when a solution seems impossible? Holding the Calm shares the secrets that enable everyone to avoid, minimize, or resolve conflict.

Popular master mediator Hesha Abrams has tens of thousands of hours in the trenches mediating human conflict, and she shares her pragmatic wisdom in digestible bites that detail how to improve situations and solve difficult problems between human beings, from family and workplace disputes to complex commercial and global conflicts. Learn how to

• Speak into the ears that hear you 
• Be the grown-up in the room
• Listen to what is not said
• Create small, winnable victories

Practical, inspirational, and full of accessible tools you can use right now,
Holding the Calm proves that you don't need an advanced degree or certification to minimize challenges and defuse tension between real people, businesses, and countries.


Hesha Abrams:
Hesha Abrams is the founder of Hesha Abrams Mediation and is an internationally renowned mediator who has successfully resolved thousands of cases over the past thirty years, from simple car accidents to multibillion-dollar disputes involving titans of industry. Abrams received a JD from Florida State University College of Law and went on to become a successful trial lawyer. She is the recipient of many awards, including Corporate Counsel's 2021 top-rated lawyer and the Martindale-Hubbell AV rating. Abrams has spoken at the International Symposium on Negotiation and Conflict Resolution and mediates in countries all over the world.